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#1 Patty Arche-Hueck

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Posted 24 January 2011 - 02:18 PM

Today is not a good day, no energy and bad news; my daughter is 4 hours away from me and she called me feeling sick. I want to go and I just cannot; I am not sure how I made it to the computer and posted this.

I just want to cry; I was a reliable person before "this" and now I am not working and I just can't do much of what I am used to, also I am waiting for my second lung scan result.

Sorry I am so frustrated, maybe it's not a good idea to share my feelings. You guys have more than enough, I should know, sorry...

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Posted 24 January 2011 - 03:01 PM

Don't be too sorry - a small misery dump can make you feel better. And people here know how you feel and someday may need to vent too. I hope that your daughter gets well soon and that you have good and useful results from your new scan.
Today is sunny and warm here- which is a gift at this time of year. So hold still a moment -I'm aiming some good "vibrations" at you right now...............

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Posted 24 January 2011 - 03:40 PM

Hi Patty,

Sorry to hear you're feeling a bit under the weather today; I'm sure worrying about your daughter isn't helping either.! :(

I think it is a good idea to share your feelings and I'll bet a lot of other members know exactly how you feel and can empathise with you. As Enjoy has said there's always a little something to raise your spirits (like warm day this time of the year!) and hopefully you'll get a good outcome from your lung scan.....I know it can be very worrying waiting for the results.

Be sure to let us know them, won't you?

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Posted 24 January 2011 - 06:22 PM

Hi Patty!

I'm so sorry you're feeling down today :mellow:

Using this board as somewhere to go to let it all out has been so incredibly helpful to me, and I think it's a good place for us to come when we feel a little down. We all know what its like to barely have the energy to blink, let alone worry about the people we love. But better out than in, I say! ;) I hope that your daughter is feeling better, and that you get great news from the doctor about your scan!

I'm so jealous you're in Miami! I'm freezing my behind off here is Jersey!

Feel better! :flowers:

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Posted 24 January 2011 - 06:31 PM

Hey Patty,

I can totally relate to feeling down about not being able to do the stuff you use to. It's
a very hard change from being the one that use to be able to help whenever needed. :temper-tantrum:

I also had a pretty down week, don't know if it was just gloomy out, or I just was thinking too
much about the what if's....

Take this one day at a time, that's about all we can do. And do what you can, and try not to overdo.
I send you Big HUGS :emoticon-hug:

We are all here for you and know what it's like to have down times!

Love and Friendship Always,
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Posted 24 January 2011 - 09:24 PM

Hey Patti :mellow: WE all know what its like to feel helpless, frustrated, and probably every emotion a human being can feel!

What you have to try and do is not to beat yourself up about things we cannot change my love, except what we can, and do the best we can.

It isn't easy, that's for sure, when every bone in our body wants to do and be the people we once were physically, but we cannot, but we still are those people emotionally, and to get things off your chest, have a rant, cry or whatever it is you need to share we all know that place Patti and feel just like you at the "low" times.

I hope that your lung scan is okay,and all goes well and keep going, your daughter will understand your situation, you would have been there if you could have. Have a chat with her and tell her she's been with you in mind if not in person!

Hugs and good thoughts to you, Patti.

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#7 Patty Arche-Hueck

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Posted 25 January 2011 - 03:18 PM

Thanks for the replies.

Nanette called me, she has a virus and she does feel better. I am still down and I am trying to get out of the dark. Thanks for the good vibes, really appreciate them and it's good it's warm here.

Lynn, I try to share this with my hubby (who loves me and cares a lot), but he does not understand since he hasn't seen me like this before, thanks for the advice though.

SusieQ, thanks for the hug.

J, I just can't stand the cold weather, so thank goodness I am here.

Joelf, I will let you guys know about my scan; thanks for the response everyone.

It just worried me that I am becoming someone I was never like; I am so worried about my family, not about myself. I know what happens when we lose an important person at an early age, well I just have to keep fighting.

Thanks ,thanks, thanks

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Posted 26 January 2011 - 08:14 PM

Hey Patty.

You are very welcome; my husband is a lovely, gentle soul and he does not understand either, he feels things deeply. When I'm ill or low he bumbles about not really knowing what to say or do.

But, I come here to my forum friends who know what it's like to have this issue; they, like me, understand the place we live everyday with scleroderma as our un-wanted guest! So, take heart and talk here with us Patty okay. :emoticons-yes:

And, dont you be worrying about "going" anywhere, you have a lot of living to do yet, a lot of things to enjoy and count the blessings for,just not in the same way you used to!

Take care and shrug off the darkness and enjoy the sun's warmth on your face ...and put a little smile on - you'll be pleased at who smiles back! :emoticons-yes:

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Posted 28 January 2011 - 06:52 PM

Hey Patty

Are you kidding? Why, this is the perfect place to share those feelings. We all understand what those bad days are all about only too well. Never worry about sharing them with us, unfortunately they just sneak up on us some days when we are not looking...and the good news is that you have more "ears" here than you can fill in a lifetime because we're everywhere :lol:

Besides, I've never known a good 'cry' to hurt anybody either....so I say do it if it makes you feel better...sometimes we just need that every now and then...sickness or not.

Hope you are feeling better now since I'm a little late on this thread!
Sending good wishes your way!

#10 Patty Arche-Hueck

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Posted 02 February 2011 - 10:37 PM

Guys ,my rheumatologist called and he wants to see me. He said there is not much difference between this scan and the previous one, so that's good news to share with you. Thanks,I am feeling better today,and hope tomorrow is better. Thanks and hugs...Patty
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Posted 02 February 2011 - 11:35 PM

Hi Patty,

That is great news! Sometimes a good result from a test can really pick up the spirits.

As you can see it is a great idea to let others know how you are feeling. There would be no point in writing "Oh I feel great" every day, when obviously you are not.

So pleased to see all the replies. So I wish to add mine.

Even in the best of health we can't be all things to all people. I am sure your daughter understands your frustration. Us mothers just want the best for our kids and in an ideal world we would be there whenever needed.

Glad you are feeling much better. Good stuff

Robyn

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Posted 03 February 2011 - 12:33 PM

Hi Patty,

It's good to hear that you're feeling better and more positive and what excellent news about your scan! :emoticons-yes:

Good for you!! :happy-day:

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 04:32 PM

Awww Patty,
I hear ya girlfriend. It's discouraging at times, to admit to ourselves that we are unable to do things we used to. Just yesterday, I had to tell the truth to someone, and say "I just can't do that anymore" when asked for a favor. My normal response ordinarily is just do it, and then I pay for it for over a week. Just know we do understand how you feel. :emoticon-hug:
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Posted 04 February 2011 - 06:12 PM

Hi Patty :happy-day: Excellent news about the scan!
Onward and upward my friend.....do I sense a smile has returned to your little face! Hope so,
talk again soon.
Lynn.