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#1 uknlv18

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Posted 18 November 2011 - 04:59 AM

Hi everyone,

Well winter hasn't even really started and I seem to be going into hermit mode already. I can't seem to get the motivation to do anything lately. Part is because I keep having terrible Raynaud's attacks and my cuticles are looking like they have gone through a grinder. And as I said winter hasn't even really started yet. So I thought I would do a bit of a moan and see if anyone had some good suggestions to shake me out of my poor mood!

Been trying to get my head around my first project and just stare at the screen and watch my cursor blink. And I am still debating on whether I should go ahead with the bath conversion to a shower or just have my hubby help me get in the bath and hope that in the future I can go back to regular baths. See can't make a decision or do anything productive. Bleh I think I need a vacation from my house. But I want to save the money for the bathroom.

Well done moaning and all that, hope everyone is doing as well as they can be and better then normal!

Cheers
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Posted 18 November 2011 - 08:44 AM

Hi Jean,

Oh dear, I am sorry you're feeling a bit low. It's a horrible time of the year at this time (apart from being mine and Susie's birthdays!! ;) ) and holiday time seems quite a way off.

Thankfully, I don't really suffer with depression myself, being of a fairly upbeat nature, but I can understand how you can feel. I think that everything can get on top of you at times and you have been having a rotten time lately, what with breaking your arm and then having a painful flare up with your Raynaud's attacks.

I don't know if you're able to take much exercise due to your arm but I find that it's impossible for me to be miserable when I'm at the gym surrounded by really super people and exercising (and singing along to my MP3 player, much to the discomforture of the other gym members! ;) :rolleyes: ) Also I've recently started doing Zumba Dancing (see my thread here). I thoroughly recommend that as an antidote to feeling low; the music is very upbeat and catchy and although I'm totally unco-ordinated and frankly pretty hopeless at it, it's still very good fun. I've found some of the music we use for the classes and so now I can dance around doing Zumba at home and drive my long suffering husband round the bend! ;) :lol:

I also like to put some upbeat music on my computer to join in with or something like "My Old Man's a Dustman" or "Ernie...the Fastest Milkman in the West". that never fails to make me smile! I'm listening to Alma Cogan at the moment and she had a very happy singing voice. (I'm showing my age now!! :lol: )

I hope you can come to a decision about your bathroom; as I said in your other thread, my mother uses a seat in the bath very successfully and it hasn't neccessitated a lot of upheaval to her bathroom.

Here's a large :emoticons-group-hug: to be going on with and I do hope that you're soon feeling a lot better and more positive.

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Posted 18 November 2011 - 01:58 PM

Jean you'll find that being able to bathe at your convenience and not depend on someone else will make you feel better in itself. I was amazed at the difference it made, it gave me back my independence. Well, except for yesterday when the battery pack decided to stop working, not run out, but stopped working when the chair was at the bottom of the bath with yours truly on it. Had to have my husband lift me out, thankfully I had put off having a bath until he was home! I do know that the battery packs are supposed to have a reserve that stops then from running out when the chair is on the bottom of the bath but this doesn't apply to when they die!

Have the council come in and do what they will, you have nothing to loose and your independence to gain.

Feeling low comes with the territory and I have certainly experienced it myself and will continue to do so, that's not the issue, the issue is when feeling low bleeds into depression. Once you get into the realms of depression you need outside help whether medication and/or counselling. You might find it helpful to keep a diary just marking down each day whether it's a good or bad day and if you have more bad than good you need to get outside help.

I had a bit of a meltdown yesterday which began with me banging an incredibly sore patch on my foot which meant I couldn't walk on it for about 1/2 an hour and ended up sitting on my bed, in the dark, sobbing. I am pleased to say I feel better today so I accept yesterday as coming with the territory, had I felt the same way today that could be another story.

Take care and keep posting.
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Posted 18 November 2011 - 03:32 PM

Hi Jean,
Sorry you are feeling low :balloons: a bunch of balloons to hitch your spirits to is the best I can do from here :emoticon-dont-know: bit it might make you giggle a bit.
I absolutely hate it when my hands get too unkempt. A few years ago I started getting a professional manicure when they got too bad and that really makes a difference to how I feel about myself. Of all the parts of yourself your hands are the ones most visible to you because they are always right in your line of view. I don't remember you saying you have sclerodactyly badly so a manicure might help. Of course you need to choose a reputable salon to visit. I presume you have nail bars in malls and I am not really suggesting going there.

Best wishes from me, and try to use some of the tips people are giving you.

Let us know if anything in particular helps.

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Posted 19 November 2011 - 01:12 PM

Thanks all,

I have decided to wait out the council and have them do what they are going to do, then if I need to add anything I can. Looked at the baths and we went to a showroom that actually had some and for the price it isn't worth it. The wet room will be best in the long run.

I have got some new exercise programs for my game and am starting using them. It is a bit hard at the moment as my legs feel like lead from lack of use, and my back feels like it might break if I do even a little. But going to take it slow, 5-10 a day for now and work up as I feel better. I took my first shower after the fall, and it was tough, was scared witless lol Shook like a leaf for about an hour after but I did get in with my hubby's help and out. But the wet room will make all the difference! But it did help my mood to be able to get wet all over and not just a sponge bath.

That must of been terrible Amanda, with the chair; I'm glad your husband could get you out okay. Hopefully they will replace it quickly so you can go back to nice long soaks. I too find to just sit and have a good cry helps me quite a bit. A lot of my problem at the moment is the Raynaud's attacks, my cuticles look like they been in a grinder. I went and had a haircut and a colour today and that has lifted my mood. I decided to splurge today and let the hairdresser do my colour instead of me doing it and it turned out fantastic. I went a dark purple/plum with blonde highlights. I also went out and bought my holiday, Anniversary and Birthday Present all rolled into one. It is a well known brand Stand Mixer and it will be a great help with my baking and stuff. Gonna make some bread tomorrow and break it in! Can't wait.

Don't think I could do Zumba, Jo; looked at it a little and I think they would be taking me out on a stretcher after 5 minutes :P and Judy, I had a pedicure today, which was great; I love the foot massage you get with it. Don't do the manicure anymore as my cuticles are so bad; it would probably scare my poor nail person to death hehe

Thanks again for the uplifting comments and stories, it has helped me a lot. Off to look at recipes for cakes and bread to use on my new mixer!

Take care all
Jean

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Posted 19 November 2011 - 01:51 PM

Hi Jean
Sorry you're feeling low at the moment. Try and decide what it is exactly that is getting you down. Is it the cold weather? The Raynauds? The long winter nights? All of them? Lots of people feel like hibernating in the winter so what you're feeling is not that unusual. The cold weather is not something us Raynauds sufferers have any control over.

What you can have some control over is keeping yourself as warm as possible doing all the stuff that is recommended. Now is maybe not the right time to be making big decisions about your bathroom when you're feeling low, as your thoughts may not be as clear as they would usually be. Is there anything else coming up that you can look forward to or get enjoyment out of?

I agree with Amanda that clinical depression is something more than feeling fed up/reacting to certain rubbish things in life, so if you suspect it's something more than being "fed up" get some further help. Start at GPs surgery as they may have a counsellor attached to the surgery.

We all need a good moan and this is right place to do it. I heard a good joke yesterday that would probably make you laugh but its far too rude to post on this site. Sending you a big hug :). (actually not a really big hug as the stitches from having my gall bladder out are killing me I can't stand anyone coming with 10 feet of my stomach :( )


Keep warm and keep posting and keep moaning if helps
Helen

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Posted 19 November 2011 - 06:15 PM

Hello Jean

I have the brand stand mixer and the food processor in empire red, the expresso machine is next on my list. I could not cook without my food processor and stand mixer, I can't chop, cut, stir or whisk enough to be able to just rely on my hands. I watch a lot of cooking programmes and must admit to feeling a bit of envy at what people can do with just their hands <sigh>.

I must tell you of the saga behind the purchase of my stand mixer, in order to get a cheaper one in the colour I wanted I bought it from the US via a well known internet auction site. It arrived in pristine condition, Ma and I ripped it outta the box and of course I had completely forgotten that it would have a US plug on it. No worries, thought I, let me just plug it into th adaptor plug...BANG!! It blew up with smoke coming out of the back! The instructions state in big, bold letters DO NOT use an adaptor plug because of the risk of death! It then sat under stairs for about a year until I had the company adapt it for use in the UK and it's fine now.

I hope the council get a move on and you're soon enjoying the fruits of their labour!

Take care.
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Posted 19 November 2011 - 06:17 PM

Hello Helen

I am sorry your stitches are so sore, have you had a wound check yet?

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Posted 19 November 2011 - 06:26 PM

Hi Jean,

Pleased to read that you are trying to do things to :balloons: lift your spirits. I don't think I could do Zumba either. I had a very busy day yesterday, did my daughter's ironing. She has 2 girls still at home and I ironed dress after dress after dress!!! Made me feel better actually doing something which made a difference for her but I am paying for it today. Still, that's how it goes for us.

I have never minded about taking my terrible cuticles to the manicurist, once I made contact with a particular therapist she was very understanding and would never recoil at the sight :blush: . As well, once she had them under control it was no trouble to give them a tidy up. Pedicures are great aren't they - I love the massage too.

Keep up the good work, you will get over this blip I am sure.

Warm hugs from NZ

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Posted 19 November 2011 - 07:02 PM

HI Jean,
Have just been reading back over your posts on this thread and thinking about your idea for a wet room. We have one and it is great, just one little word of warning though, be very very careful what you use to tile the floor. We did ours in 2003 and used floor tiles which were available at the time.

In 2005 my husband developed a plasmacytoma in his hip and was very unsteady on his feet for probably 2 years and he found using the shower quite nerve wracking. We don't have any proper grab rails and really we should think about getting them installed.

As well I would really research if there is any really non-slip flooring. In the past we have seen sheet vinyl flooring which was recommended for this type of use but do the research it to get the most non-slip that you can.

We don't have a curtain so we have to be careful which direction we turn the spray to prevent water travelling into the dry area where your towels are. It is good not having a curtain particularly at the times we need to have a chair or another person helping.

The motivation for us to have a wet area was after looking after my Dad at home with just a regular shower box :emoticon-dont-know: , then I have a cousin who is in a wheelchair so she can come and stay which is nice. My cousin's husband is a builder so he knew about how to make the floor properly, so that is something else you need to be sure about.

At the wet end of the room we have a shower about 4ft square then beside that is a spa bath which makes bubbles but the only people who use that these days are the grandies because we can't get in and out of it any more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The wet end of the room is as long as the bath which is about 5ft 6 long and 2 ft wide all up, then we have the handbasin, vanity and towel racks at the end,so you need a fairly roomy space if you are going to have both bath and shower,

If you are just thinking of a shower then a room about 6ft long by 4ft wide should be OK, and if you are going to all that trouble, make sure your doorway is wheelchair accessible, no use having a fancy area you can't get into. Even if you never need it the wide access is a good insusrance. You know how they say the thing you have got is the thing you never need!!!

Here endeth the lesson about thinking ahead

Best wishes from
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Posted 02 December 2011 - 09:17 AM

My idea of keeping warm is going to the health club. Saves heating bills. I sit in the sun or by the pool it's 30c and swim and then sit in a hot tub.
Then the showers are walk in. So that's done when I get home.
Also take nifedipine. Getting the vacuum cleaner out is another way. Making cakes and driving with heater full on.
Another is wearing the right clothes, sheepskin slippers, knee length socks, 2 pairs in winter. Sheep skin boots, vest, good thinnish Jumper and a fleece on top .Freezing weather, long johns, 2 vests and I make sure my arms are warm. I go out and I find people wearing one layer and nothing much on their feet, then they say they are cold .

Chris