We know very much how you feel.
It used to bother me a lot that people didn't seem to "understand" what I was going through. Then it dawned on me that it was a two-way street, because I also didn't understand what they were going through, either. So I spent more time trying to walk in other people's shoes and more thought trying to figure out how they were experiencing their world.
It's truly amazing how we all live inside our own little worlds, thinking that the whole world revolves around us. Every single one of us sees the world only through the filter of our own experience, so even if we are identical twins in identical situations, we can still experience it (understand it) differently. Much of the appeal of books, movies, plays, entertainment of all sorts, is about seeing the world through another person's perspective. But even that is just temporary and as soon as the book or movie (etc.) is over, we are back to living in our own little world.
The fact of the matter is, we are the only ones who can truly understand what it is like for ourselves. Once we accept that, we can stop looking for others to "understand", simply because they cannot. How could they, unless they were born with the same genetics, had the same parenting and life experiences, and thought about everything exactly the same way? Even identical twins could both look at a red flower, and one could say it reminds them of love and is fragrant, while the other could say it reminds them of blood and stinks horribly.
One thing we can all understand, though, is that no other person really understands, which is where spiritual beliefs fill the gap for many of us. Bottom line though, we are alone, and we die alone, except for conjoined twins who share the same brain.
Also, I am pretty sure you realize this already and that you don't waste much time and energy harboring a lot of unrealistic expectations. I think you just used a common reference, and that you really are not looking for understanding from your doctor.
My perhaps rash conclusion to this is that you were probably actually hoping for a little more logic. Like, a rational discussion of the possible side effects of the medication you are on and help deciding whether you should hunker down and grin-and-bear-it with the side effects, or try another treatment. You did not want your doctor to skip out of the whole issue with an easy-breezy blame-the-patient discussion, as though you were wasting their time trying to describe what you think are likely medication side effects.
You have us for understanding, sympathy, empathy, compassion, and all that stuff, at least, we give it our best shot, same as you do for us.
To my way of thinking, your doctor actually met your report of possible medication side effects with an emotional response, whereas I think you were looking for a logical response. It might help to clarify that before you go looking for another doctor, as you might think you need someone more sensitive emotionally, however you might actually be looking for someone who is less emotional and a bit more logical, to guide your medical care.