It has been MUCH too long since you and I have chatted (in chat); though I'm SO glad , on many levels you have posted, I am ever SO sorry you are down enough to be on SSDI. I remember you were struggling, even back when you and I last chatted, trying to work through it all. With your busy (traveling) scheule, due to your line of work, I always was concerned for you, with regard to your pain/energy levels.
Now... I want to commend miocean for her EXCELLENT post, speaking very well to your ever-present circumstances; I feel she addressed them very well, offering awesome suggestions that were VERY helpful, with regard to your situation.
Adjusting, finding what works/fits for you will take time, but it will all be on YOUR time schedule! I feel quite confident you will find your (social) niche and emerge victorious, as you impress me that way ;)
I really LIKE that you are in a book club and meet as often as you do!; That's GREAT! :)
It's always wonderful to be able to locate folks with like interests, as it can also creat a more comfortable, as well as relaxing social atmosphere.
When I saw your name/topic post, I was really pleased that you sought out suggestions here. Once you are able to hone in to specific interests that have sat on a back burner, due to your work, I'm sure you will become less lonely and much happier.
As miocean had mentioned, our network of friends/family right here on ISN is a GREAT place to form friendships, first, due to our health issues. HOWEVER! I was really glad to see sticky post on your thread, mentioning his hobby love and what he's interested in...aquariums and his very interesting assortment of fish, which he has, which I'm sure offer him the calm and enjoyment, from BOTH spectrums!
Take care Kam and PLEASE know there is caring and concern all OVER our forum, so don't be a stranger here ;) Also! Our chats are still fully operational and Jo kindly lets all of us know what/when! ;) Most Tuesday evenings, there is a male member who attends most chats and I'm POSITIVE he would really enjoy your presence, any time you are able to chat with us!