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#1 barefut

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Posted 21 May 2007 - 04:16 PM

Well, I finally found the other woman with scleroderma in my small town. Three different people have told me about her but none could recall her name. I have been looking for her for about a year. Even tried to flush her out with a personal ad.

I had an oportunity to mention scleroderma to my favorite checker at the grocery store and she took my name and number and gave it to the other woman when she came through her line.

She was diagnosed 7 years ago, also has diffuse and is on a kidney transplant list. I spoke with her on the phone and will meet her at my coffee shop on Thursday. I am looking forward to it.

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Posted 21 May 2007 - 04:58 PM

What a thrill, Barefut! I am so glad you will be able to meet her, at long last.

Please give her an extra warm hug, just from me!
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Posted 21 May 2007 - 05:01 PM

That is so cool you found her. This forum is great, but I think it would also be nice to have someone near by to actually connect with.
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Posted 22 May 2007 - 04:19 AM

So glad you found 'the other woman'. It is really nice to have someone to connect with, because no one can understand unless they have walked in your shoes. That is the great thing about this forum, people here really understand.
Have fun with your meeting.
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Posted 22 May 2007 - 04:29 AM

Barefut, that's great! I can't wait to hear how the coffee date goes. Maybe this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

Whirlway's message really hit home. I think I am a terms with having Scleroderma but what really bothers me is that suddenly I am in this whole new class. The class where no one will ever fully understand me anymore, unless they have Scleroderma. Not that I want my husband to run out and get Scleroderma, but it would be nice if he, of all people, could totally understand.

Blah,
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Posted 22 May 2007 - 04:41 AM

Hello,

I am with you Jen, I read whirlaway's post and couldn't help but feel that longing to just be normal. While I am walking down the long hospital corridor, I feel anything but normal. I feel like...well here I am....again...getting another test...what will they find this time, how can this make me feel better tomorrow.

I think we all fight just a little to feel better 'tomorrow', to feel normal and not to have Scleroderma in the back of our minds.

And then I read all of your posts and I feel a little hope come from each one of you and it gives me strength to put on my "I feel normal face" and go to work, to play with my kids and to lend a hand to others who need help even more than I do. So thank you all for your commitment to lift up my spirit each and every day.

I think that it is truly our Scleroderma friends that we can relate to, who understand what each day is like, that keep us going. To make the short story long, Barefut I am so glad that you met someone else in your town to share with.
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Posted 22 May 2007 - 04:58 AM

Barefut,
That sounds great! I hope the coffee meeting is fun. Let us know how it goes.
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Posted 22 May 2007 - 08:13 AM

Wouldn't it be good if we could start a contact each other page then we could find out if anyone lived close by -- what great support that would be!
Of course I realise the privacy issue here and that could be a problem especially these days, and I'm not accusing anyone of being psycho so please, no malice intended.
I know first hand the importance of being able to talk to someone in the same position as yourself. I'm fortunate enough to attend a support group every month and as well as being able to discuss our worries with each other, we also have a great group with a great sense of humour. I think it also makes each one of us realise that our own condition isn't that bad after all when you consider others with sclero.
I hope your meeting will be the first of many and you both feel solice in each other's company.

Best wishes as always
Barbs xxx

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Posted 22 May 2007 - 08:42 AM

All of you have such great input on this subject. I guess this group is probably the closest I am going to get to a support group and I couldn't ask for a better one. Anyway, it is nice for those of you who do have the personal contact with other sufferers. As for support from significant others, that's a whole 'nuther subject, ain't it? ;)
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#10 barefut

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Posted 24 May 2007 - 10:04 AM

Well I met "the other woman" today. I'll call her Jane. She was wonderful. Funny and inspiring.

She told me that she knows someone with sclero who's grandmother lived into her 90's....with diffuse!

She reminded me a bit of americanmike with her optimism and a bit of Barbs with her humor.

She referred to her medications (40 pills/day) as her pharmeceutical food group.

Her sclero came on fast. Within 3 months of her diagnosis she was having kidney failure. She said she has lots of "ologists" and credits her nephrologist with saving her life twice.

I am so glad to have met her.

Barefut

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Posted 24 May 2007 - 10:42 AM

pharmeceutical food group! hahhahhaha! It is so true.

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Posted 24 May 2007 - 01:41 PM

Oh Barefut,

Your meeting with her sounds like such a positive experience! I hope you can continue to touch base with her.
Warm and gentle hugs,

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Posted 24 May 2007 - 04:03 PM

Barefut,
It sounds like you had a fun meeting. I hope you will be able to stay in touch with her. What a great support to have!
Nan

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Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:51 PM

Barefut,
What a great experience and new friend! She sounds like a barrel of laughs.

Hugs,
Lisa
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Posted 25 May 2007 - 01:46 PM

barefut,

I'm so glad for you both... It's so great having this forum as somewhere we can go and talk with each other.Yet, to have someone in front of you...someone you can look at... it's like having a real sister :rolleyes: !
I hope you are both able to meet often with each other.
Hugs, Susie
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