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#1 barefut

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 09:39 AM

Well, just as Sam asked for some good vibes for stress relief, I am going to ask y'all for some on motivation.

My job prospects are looking grim. Small town employers hire friends and relatives first - at least that's what I hope it is and there's nothing wrong with me! Therefore, I am starting to stress about money.

3 weeks ago I felt full of hope and promise but now for the past 3-4 days I have walked around the empty house in a daze, looking at all that needs to be done and then only wanting to sleep but not sleepy - believe it or not! I am not fatigued today, there is some energy there. I'm just unmotivated. So then I end up channel surfing the myriad of garbage on daytime television and get even more depressed!

The first week as as empty nester was great and I enjoyed my free time guilt free, but now I am feeling guilty for not having work and for not doing more about it. I've lost my momentum and motivation. The weather change does not help either. Gloomy Gloomy Gloomy.

Even though I have been on Prozac for about 2 months, I am feeling and fearing the depression creeping back up on me. I am not excited about anything. I feel there is nothing to look forward to but more of the same.

I have never been on more than 20mg of Prozac and don't want to have to take more if I can help it. But for the past few days, I haven't been able to shake these blues. Incidentally when I saw my general practitioner on the 12th for a follow up on my depression, I was doing ok and told him so. He was impressed that I was job hunting.

Anyway, any good vibes of hope and motivation sent in my direction are greatly appreciated.

Take Care,
Love,
Barefut

#2 Kamlesh

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 01:15 PM

Hi Barefut,

I am sorry to hear about your job problems and sending you good vibes.
I will be careful increasing dose of Prozac. First, it takes 2-3 weeks to take effect and second you may have more side effects. It is not going to solve your immediate problem.

You just need to be strong and I am sure you can be. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. If you are consistently staying depressed (Trying to just sleep, even if you are not sleepy is a classic sign of depression, I have seen too many days like those), consult your psychiatrist, either you need to increase dose or change medications.

Have you gotten any relief from Prozac? If not, it is time to change medication.

I am really sorry what you are going through. From my experience, I can tell you, stay busy, find things to enjoy, and talk to people you are comfortable with.

Just remember, it is only one life you have and you have two choices – either live happily or live sadly.

Choice is clear and you need to work on ways to make yourself happy.
We are here to provide whatever support you need.
Kind regards,

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 01:43 PM

* * motivation * *
* * motivation * *
* * motivation * *
* * motivation * *
* * motivation * *

hugs, peanut

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 01:43 PM

Sending you some happy thoughts...

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 05:00 PM

**motivation**
:D happy thoughts :D
((hugs))

**motivation**
:D happy thoughts :D
((hugs))........


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Posted 20 September 2007 - 05:05 PM

Sending you some good vibes and wishes for a new found motivation.

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 05:18 PM

Hey there Barefut,
Well I am sorta in the same boat as you. Empty nester, needing the extra funds, not sure who will hire someone who has been out of the work force for a good few months.

SOOOOOOO, I proprose that you and I keep each other informed about ALLLLL of the things that we DID accomplish each day! I have learned to reassess what is a "good" day...for instance, today I did 3 loads of laundry got 1 application and had a short visit with a friend. Tomorrow...who knows, but I will try to fill out my application and do more laundry. Im gonna call this a good day and let you know what happens tomorrow.

Are you ready for the challenge? :)
*WestCoast*

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 05:20 PM

Hi Barefut,

It sounds like you are going through a situational adjustment and just feeling at loose ends right now. That is perfectly normal with major life changes, such as kids going back to school and job-hunting. Pulling ourselves out of it and turning things around, that is a whole 'nother story.

I'd suggest taking the pressure off yourself for a spell. Here's an idea you can consider: Promise yourself that no matter what, you will not look for, apply for, think about or stress out over employment for one full week. You will take an employment vacation.

But, you are feeling bad about the work piling up around the house. It will be an enormous stress reliever if you tackle some of that.

Here is your one week to tackle it! First, invite someone over to the house to visit one week from now.

My cleaning secret -- which only took me about 58 years to discover -- is regular entertaining in the home, even if it's just having someone over for a cup of coffee. Nothing motivates us more than that, and then we are eagerly anticipating the company and the time flies by while cleaning. And don't invite someone who'll overlook the mess! The goal is to get a somewhat critical fresh eye looking at our place -- at least, in our mind, as a motivator.

Write down the 7 worst rooms of the house. Pick the 1 worst thing in each room (usually a closet, if you're like me.)

Turn OFF the TV (turn on peppy music instead), and do not turn the TV on that day until you have tamed (somewhat to your satisfaction, but not to perfection) the 1 worst thing in the room chosen for that day.

When you have tamed that item, you'll feel an energy surge. Use that surge to give yourself a Spa Hour (every day). Give yourself a long hot bath one day, a facial or manicure the next, etc.

By now you will feel proud of your accomplishments and nice and relaxed, too. At this point it is okay to turn on the tv (if you want) and just veg or do whatever.

But do NOT start tackling the next day's project or continue cleaning! The idea is to start restoring yourself and gradually regain energy from tackling things that you are capable of, not wearing yourself down to the bone.

Whenever the thought of work enters your mind, tell yourself you already have your work cut out for you this week -- you do! -- and visualize the thought drifting gently back up to the clouds.

This week off will give your subconscious time to think about the job situation in a more positive frame of mind (without you consciously dwelling on it). At the end of the week, you'll have a lot cleaner house, feel more organized and more on top of your game.

In 7 days, re-evaluate. See if you feel any better, or not. Adjust your plan as necessary -- but, the real key is to have a plan, and impose your own deadline on it to get an adrenaline surge that helps us break through the blahs and the fatigue, which are always ready to nip at our heels.
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#9 jefa

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 10:57 PM

What a bunch of great friends you have here, Barefut. There is some good advice. In fact, if you don't mind, I think I'll cadge some of Shelley's routine for this week, too. Only I don't have 7 rooms, so I'll have to have a whole spa day for one of them. As for the antidepressant, I wouldn't advice going to more before trying a different one, but I don't think you have been on this one long enough to get a real feel. It may be that it is actually helping and that's why you are beginning to see that there are things in your life you need to take charge of. I am sending all the good vibes I can find. I have found over the years that the more you give away, the more you have for yourself! :)
Warm wishes,
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Posted 21 September 2007 - 03:27 AM

Wow, What great advise!

I fully agree about seeing the doctor that prescribed you the prozac and tell them that you are feeling the "blues" again. When my last daughter started school, I bought a puppy. What a mistake that was! I was allergic to her and had to get rid of her.

I love Shelley's advice. It's so true. When you have a guest coming, you always want your house to look nice, and seem to find the time to "tidy" up the little thing that you let go over time. When my friend Michele (whom I met on these boards) came up from Georgia to stay with me for a long weekend, I cleaned my house for a week. I tackled one room at a time over the week before she got here. My husband said we need to invite people more often! LOL! It was hard work, but I felt very accomplished at the end of the day when I finally let myself fall on the couch with out guilt. Hmmmmmmmmmm......come to think of it. My house could use another good cleaning. Anyone coming to Michigan soon?

And don't forget about visualization meditation. Now that you have the house to yourself, you can have some absolute quiet time to take a few minutes to just breath deep and put yourself in a happy place. I know it sounds like a simple thing to do, but it really got me out of a lot of bad "moments". Also finding a hobby, something to focus on. I started scrapbooking when I was going thru my "anxiety" period. It was a life saver!

Don't forget to breathe, and know that you're not alone!


Lots of happy wishes to you
Happy people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have!

Warm and Happy to you! Vee

#11 barefut

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Posted 21 September 2007 - 06:34 AM

Man you guys are SO great! Thanks so much everyone.

Shelley, I LOVE that advice and I am going to do it starting today. Incidentally my sister and her hubby are coming tomorrow morning so I HAVE to get busy now! :huh:

I miss that feeling of accomplishment. It's true, I do get sort of a natural high when I am getting things done. And it IS sometimes hard to stop myself when I am on a roll but I know I should or else I will crash and burn. That's why I like your idea of stopping myself and forcing some ME time into the equation.

And yes, getting the house in order will be a big stress reliever and free up my mind too.

Erin,

For awhile I had myself in the habit of writing down my accomplishments at the end of the day instead of making a to-do list at the begining of the day and I felt less overwhelmed.

But I felt I had to be accountable to someone as well, so as to keep myself on track. So I told my sister that I would email her my weekly accomplishment journal. When days went by that I didn't really do anything significant towards my career and divorce goals, I started feeling ashamed that I wanted to write down that I took a shower and did a load of laundry! :P

It was then I realized, I have been holding myself up to the standards of a healthy person. I need to give myself a break I guess. "Reassess what is a good day" as you said.

So, if some days I have: 1. took a shower 2. got the kids off to school 3. meditated 4. fed the dog ......etc I guess I can just try to feel good about that!

I would be delighted to share our daily accomplishments with each other. Especially since you say we are in the same boat, except I have been out of employment for 10 years! (not counting my preschool last year) It's hard to convince an employer I am employable! :rolleyes:

Thank you all again for your good vibes of energy and motivation! I feel them and they are working. Now I gotta go vacuum.

Love you all,
Barefut

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Posted 21 September 2007 - 08:48 AM

Well I'm a bit behind the times here, and you've received some incredible advice. It actually brought tears to my eyes realizing what a great bunch of people we have here for support.

So I at this point I'll just tell you I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending wonderful, powerful motivating thoughts your way.
Warm and gentle hugs,

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Posted 21 September 2007 - 08:02 PM

Hi Barefut,
I am one of these people that won't sit down until I have accomplished everything that I have set out to do.

Each morning I nearly always plan what I want to get done that day, whether it is going to the shops or household chores.

Most times I always accomplish these tasks, instead of cleaning the house in one big hit I for instance will clean the toilet and bathroom one day, Vaccum every other day, wash the floors another day and so forth. I also try and iron every day for half an hour.

This past month I have felt good with lots of energy (since I started the Prednisolone), and yes I know about all the risks of taking it.

I have cleaned out cupboards, wardrobes, and today I did the worst job of all - defrosting the fridge ( I don't have a frost free one). I have only just sat down now and it is 4.30pm and yes I'm tired, but also feel good that I have made the effort to to do all the tasks.

I have had four weeks of good days and I've learned to take up the opportunity to do all the things that I have let go in the house when I have had bad days.

My mother in law also visits every fortnight, so of course this motivates me to try and keep the house in order.

Late afternoons I also go in every room to make sure all is in order, toys put away and so forth.

Oh, one more thing that I do and that is when I cook dinner I always cook more than I should, I then freeze the left overs. This has helped me enourmously in the past, if I am late from doctors appointments or I am feeling rotten that day, I can pull something out of the freezer for dinner.

I hope this helps Barefut, take care.

Celia :rolleyes:

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Posted 21 September 2007 - 09:27 PM

Barefut

BIG WARM HUG AND LOTS OF LOVE
from me. :) <3

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Posted 22 September 2007 - 10:14 AM

Barefut!
You always have my motivation. I think of you often and wish you good things.
Hope all is well...:)
Jen