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#1 barefut

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Posted 08 November 2007 - 06:00 AM

Well I never expected this job hunting to be such an emotional rollercoaster. With every interview, I get my hopes up and then they are dashed.

I actually accepted a job as an assistant teacher at a state funded "school" (daycare) for 0 - 3 year olds. They were desperate for help. It was basically babysitting with about 1/3 of my time being spent potty training and the other 2/3 spent cleaning up messes and preparing for the next mess. Really no "teaching" involved. I really miss my preschool! 3 - 5 year olds are more my speed. They're more self-sufficient and easier on my back!

My first day on that job was also my last. My body just couldn't handle 7 hours of bending, leaning, squatting, stooping, lifting, crawling...When we put the kids down for their naps, I nearly fell asleep too! :( My back still hurts!

It was almost humiliating to have to go in the next day and explain that I couldn't handle it. I actually told my boss about scleroderma in a nutshell and how it affected me physically. I didn't see any other way around it. She was very understanding, thank goodness. I thought she might be upset with me.

The worst part was that I cancelled 2 interviews for other jobs after I accepted that one. One of those interviews I was able to reschedule, but again, I had to explain scleroderma as the reason the other job didn't work out for me. I didn't want to just say "health issues"; that would leave her imagination wide open. So I was as concise as I could be and said that my main "disability" was arthritis-type symptoms, and that standing or sitting was fine for me but chasing toddlers around for 7 hours/day 5 days/week was too much.

This interviewer was also very sympathetic and understanding. She said that job woud be taxing for a healthy person. She sounded as if she would have liked to hire me on the spot but she needed to call a couple of other people back. That was last Thursday and I have not heard from her since. I think she gave me false hope.

*sigh*

I guess I can chalk everything up to learning experiences. At least now I have a better idea of my physical limitations. And I can't trust an interviewer's enthusiasim about me as a sign of being hired. I need to stop getting my hopes up.

In my small town's weekly paper, there is nothing in the help wanteds that's appropriate for me. I'm going to work on painting my bedroom today.

Thanks for listening,
Barefut

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Posted 08 November 2007 - 11:52 AM

I'm really sorry that the job didn't work, but you have to remember what your limitations are so you can eliminate those that require too much physical work on your part. I have found retail to be really good for me. When in an office job my body froze up from sitting too long & working on the computer- then I tried my own business - not a good choice, tremendous additional stress - but for me getting out and seeing people has been the answer - some days are great & others I use my meds to get me through. I didn't tell my workplace about my "illness/disability" until months after I started, but when I did the understanding of most was helpful. I still struggle after a year getting my co-workers to "get it", but that's how it is. So prepare yourself mentally! That's the best advice I can share. The other advice is to try to stay positive in your outlook! It really does help. Hope I've helped!
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Posted 08 November 2007 - 05:56 PM

Hey Barefut,

Sorry you are going through this. I know how much this must be a blow to your ego and self- worth. I know I went through something similar and it was quite a blow to me. Moral to this story is don't give out. Persistence is the key, hold your head high, put a smile on your face and keep moving forward! We believe in you!

Thinking of you.
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Posted 08 November 2007 - 07:01 PM

Sorry to hear that, but I know what you're feeling. I literally haven't been able to kneel in about 4 years! Try searching online for job postings in your area. I know my company consistently posts positions online for new hires. Sunday papers are usually full of employment ads, but that's been lessening since the computer, email emphasis. Just seems computer is the choice due to the rapid response time. You'll find something.

I have been told by HR, since on disability, not to disclose too much into to my immediate boss. Apparently, you are not obligated to disclose any of your private information other than the doctor's recommendation for temporary disability.
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#5 barefut

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Posted 09 November 2007 - 11:24 AM

Thanks Gals,

I have to admit I have been pretty bummed these past 2 days. Maybe all I'm good for is applying for financial assistance and charity.

It's really depressing to be a college graduate who can't even get a job as a part time bank teller but teenagers right out of high school can.

I feel like a total failure who can't support herself or her kids. I HATE being dependent on estranged hubby for money.

Sorry I don't have any cheese to go with my whine for this pity party. Wish I had a huge slice of double chocolate cake with dark chocolate frosting and a scoop of vanilla ice-cream on the side too.

I'm just going to wallow in it for the weekend, get it out of my system and get on with the hunt next week. I hope that's all the time I need.

Thanks again,
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Barefut

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Posted 16 November 2007 - 07:41 PM

Well I couldn't stand it and I called my interviewer last Friday. She apologized for not getting back to me sooner and explained that she has been swamped and has not had time to interview the other two people yet but that she would call me early this week.

I got her call today. I am a bank teller beginning Tuesday!
I can't wait to start working, learning something new and that paycheck will be kinda nice too.

I am hoping that working in a bank will inspire me to become more responsible with my money, now that I'll have some to be responsible with.
I don't even know what a savings account is! Been living hand to mouth and on credit cards too long.

I have YMCA after school care for my boys but I am worried about finding responsible care for them for holiday vacations and summer break. It is going to be SO HARD for me to not be able to spend the summer with them!!! I will miss them and our summer fun so much!

I have always been the babysitter. I loved having a house full of kids in the summer and the freedom to take them to the beach everyday if we wanted. Now I don't know what I'm gonna do. I have one teenager for an option, provided she's interested and available but I would really love to have an adult that would care for them as much as me and be able to take them to the beach and the park too in the summer.

*sigh*

It will be quite an adjustment for us all.

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Posted 16 November 2007 - 10:42 PM

Congratulations on the job, sweetie. One step at a time. Now that you are employed, that's one box ticked. At least you have a little time before the summer break to think about things. Now, onto the important things: What ARE you going to wear? :)
Warm wishes,
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Posted 17 November 2007 - 05:18 AM

Barefut, congrats!!!!

I have several friends in the banking industry, and they love it! Good for you. Can't wait to here how it's going.

It really is a bittersweet situation though isn't it. My daughter is a single mom of two, and she is always trying to find the right sitter. She just went through another change, and it's so hard on the kids. My heart really goes out to all of the mom's that find it necessary to work, and have the struggle of finding good daycare. There are some great ones out there though - but be picky! You might want to ask around at work to see if any of your new co-workers use someone they like. Maybe they have open spots.
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Posted 17 November 2007 - 02:55 PM

Yeah.............. :D :lol: Been there, know how you must have felt; how great you feel now. You get em girl! Congrats and we'll all be with you Tuesday.
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Posted 17 November 2007 - 02:59 PM

Sweet:

You surprise me; you look like a beautiful model and now I learn you have grand children.

I swear, I want several bottles of what you gals are using, because I am in desperate need of a make over. I contacted my hairdresser to ask if she could come to the house and do something to make me look decent before my operation. She's coming right before that date. I need the uplift.
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Posted 17 November 2007 - 05:37 PM

Tru you are too kind. Now come on, take a close look at my pic. There are wrinkles! I'm 48. Started having kids at a young age and my daughter started young too, so there you have it!
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Posted 07 February 2008 - 01:51 AM

Hi Barefut,

I'm happy for you with the teller job. Do you have any experience? The reason I ask, is I've been out of work for almost 2 years now! I've gone on interviews and had literally hundreds of resumes go out. I've attended all sorts of job fairs etc. I was a teacher and got laid off when the school (private) downsized. Here in NY there are 1500 teachers for every job, and most of them young and coming out of college with dual certifications etc. I am 50 (I said it for the first time--it just happened last week! :) and we are going broke between doctor bills, and gas prices, two kids in college and two teen age boys at home! My poor husband!! BUT it doesn't make sense to work for not enough money and I'm not sure what I can handle anymore anyway! Let me know how the teller job goes, I never thought to totally change directions like that!
Peace,
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Posted 08 February 2008 - 07:08 PM

Hi Karen,

Well I am still loving my teller job. There is so much to learn! More than one would think. I love the atmosphere and the pace of the job not to mention the location - right on the water next to the ferry - a gorgeous view out of every window.

Now that I am pretty proficient with the basic transactions I am able to direct some of my attention to chatting with the customers and I really enjoy getting to know people. There is always something new to learn. It's like also going to school.

I taught preschool out of my home last ear and miss it so much but also realize that it did take a lot of precious, hard to come by, energy. I think I am in the right place for me.

Good luck to you finding something that suits you. I would recommend banking. There's also always room to move up.