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#1 razz

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 09:20 AM

Dear Friends,

I have been doing a lot of introspective thinking lately, especially with the New Year. I'm not one to make resolutions. That type of thinking went out the door long ago. But I wonder what changes do I need to make to make my life better and happier? What can I do to help someone else?

Then I received a phone call this morning. I saw it was my friend Donna's husband. I met Donna at one of many seminars I would attend in the Chicago area. Donna was lively and friendly even though she got around using a cane. She was diagnosed with scleroderma but didn't have all the obvious symptoms, like raynaud's, hand swelling or outward physical changes. She had sine scleroderma. We became friends and she introduced me to Marilyn, another woman with scleroderma. Donna was affected with hypertension. Marilyn's symptoms were hand swelling and a lot of pain which made her job as a hairsylist diffcult but she still worked part-time. We called ourselves a three-some and kept in touch over the years.

I could go on and describe these two woman because we were all so different. Sadly, two years ago I got a call from Donna that Marilyn had passed away. Marilyn loved white doves and Donna called her the dove lady. We both went to Marilyn's house in the cold of winter to pay our respects. We released white balloons with white carnations attached from Marilyn's porch.

Today I received a call from Donna's husband Mike, who said that Donna passed away last month from hypertension complications. I feel a bit sad but I'm glad to have known my friends and that they are no longer in pain.

Life can be fleeting and so I count all the blessings that I have, even the small ones.

Take care and have a Blessed New Year.

Hugs,
Razz
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Posted 15 January 2009 - 09:45 AM

Dear Razz

I wondered how things were for you as you have not posted for awhile and I am sorry that it's a difficult time. I think your assessment of the situation is a very brave one and your positivity commendable.

I must admit no pain is a mighty attractive scenario and there's a lot to be said for it, I am sorry that grief is the result for you and Donna's family.

Take care.

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 09:45 AM

Dear Razz,

I'm very sorry your friend Donna has passed away. I know firsthand how very difficult that is. I'm sending extra warm hugs your way...
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Posted 15 January 2009 - 09:46 AM

Hi Razz - I am sorry for your loss. I know your life was enriched by knowing these two women. It is always so difficult to here about losing someone from this disease or complications from it. Warm hugs to you. -Ann

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 10:10 AM

Razz,

Honey, I am so sorry. The sadness is just part of what you are feeling I bet....there are so many other emotions I'm sure you are experiencing.

Love y!
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Posted 15 January 2009 - 10:37 AM

Hi Razz

I too send my sympathies...it's always so hard when we lose a loved one....emotions are everywhere. I hope you are doing ok. Take care.
Sending good wishes your way!

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 10:42 AM

Dearest Razz,

I'm so sorry~ I lost my best friend to MS. Life is indeed fleeting, more brief than we ever expect. I read somewhere that we're judged not by what we do, but by the friends we've made. You, Donna, and Marilyn surely deserve stars in your crowns.

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 11:32 AM

Hi Razz,

So sorry to hear of your friend Donna and Marilyn. I know you will miss them. What a beautiful gift of white balloons and carnations. Susie54

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 11:59 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. :(

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Posted 15 January 2009 - 12:07 PM

Hi Razz ,

I am so sorry about the passing of your two friends. You will be in my thoughts. I hope that you are doing OK yourself....emotionally.

Take care, Everyone.
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Posted 15 January 2009 - 01:12 PM

Thanks everyone for your kind words of support. I am never too far and still check in to see how my scleroderma friends are doing. I was feeling under the weather for a while and then I got the sad news this morning. I know I'll be fine.

I am so grateful for you all being here for me and always supporting each other.

Warmest Hugs,
Razz
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Posted 15 January 2009 - 02:57 PM

Razz,

So sorry to hear about Donna and Marilyn. I know how hard this must be for you. Your in my thoughts.
Lots of hugs!!
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Posted 15 January 2009 - 07:09 PM

Hi razz,

This must be difficult for you and am sorry for the passing of your friends, and most recently Donna. Will keep you in my thoughts .

With gentle thoughts,

Judy
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Posted 16 January 2009 - 01:50 AM

Razz, sometimes we have better and greater memories with friends more so than family members. It is hard when we no longer have that person in our lives to talk with and share a hug or a tear with. It is good that we have other friends and family that step in to fill the void of our lose. You are the last one standing. Keep sharing your story of Scleroderma and the changes that have happened in your life. Others will keep learning from you. Even after we are gone others will keep their memories of us going for quite some time. Well, at least I hope so. Condolences from me to you.
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Posted 16 January 2009 - 05:16 AM

Hey Razz........I'm sorry for your loss. Hang in there.
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Posted 17 January 2009 - 04:19 AM

Dear Razz,
My heart goes out to you.... there isn't anything to say but that we can be grateful for the people who have enriched our lives in their own special way.
One of my favorite quotes comes from the Wizard of Oz to the Tin Man; "A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others." Your friends are loved! And so are you.
Stay warm in body and soul.
Love, Mary in Philly
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Posted 17 January 2009 - 02:35 PM

Dear Razz:

I was so glad to see you post and then so saddened by what you have had to go through. It's so hard to lose good friends and to have that connection that you had is priceless. I am sure you so touched their lives and all of you gained so much from each other. It's sad that we have all been brought together by such a terrible disease but yet we are all so blessed to have each other. I hope that you are doing OK and again I'm so glad to hear from you. Please take care and you will be in my thoughts!

Warm hugs,

Peggy

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Posted 17 January 2009 - 03:03 PM

Razz,

I am sorry to hear about your friends passing. You are in my thoughts. While I know you are sad and mourning right now, I hope the memories of your friendship and your times together will bring you many smiles and thoughts of happyness.

I've missed you!
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