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#1 Jeannie McClelland

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Posted 27 February 2009 - 02:50 PM

I need to whine. My best friend was diagnosed with lung cancer about 3 weeks ago. She thought she had pneumonia~ I took her for a lung biopsy yesterday and she gave me the results from the CT scan to read. Bad, very bad.

I'm not handling this very well. I did infinitely better with my own diagnosis. And I truly do not understand why this should be.

I sure could use some hugs~
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Posted 27 February 2009 - 03:05 PM

Oh Jeannie I am so very sorry. You have been such a wonderful support. I wish I could help in some small way.

I will most definitely keep both you and your friend in my warm thoughts.

Wrap your arms around yourself and feel the love I'm sending!

Much love,

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Posted 27 February 2009 - 03:30 PM

Jeannie,

Huge warm gentle hugs are pouring to you. I am so very sorry.

We can be strong for ourselves, it is much harder to be inwardly strong for others when we feel so helpless and our first instinct is to protect our loved ones and there seems to be nothing we can do for them.

I wish at times like this that we were not all separated by so much distance because there are many here that would love to give you a shoulder and to offer whatever help we could to your friend as well.

I wish I could say something that would lift the pain and helpless feelings from you. All I can do is send my love and let you know that we will share your tears and offer any help you need, and all the hugs you can handle.

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Posted 27 February 2009 - 04:15 PM

Hi Jeannie,

I'm very sorry to hear this. Please give your friend an extra warm hug, just from me. I am sure you will be a tremendous comfort to her.
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Posted 27 February 2009 - 11:12 PM

Big warm hugs, Sweetie. We talked about this already, but any time you want to talk again, let me know.
Warm wishes,
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Posted 28 February 2009 - 03:07 AM

Jeannie,
I am so sorry.... Just be the best friend you can with comfort and support. We all know you are good at that.

Hugs to you and your friend,
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Posted 28 February 2009 - 05:15 AM

Jeannie,

I am so sorry to hear about your dear best friend. I'm here for you and will be sending healing thoughts your way. Your friend is very special to you as I'm sure you've both been through thick and thin together. Your support for your best friend will help her get through the rough times. Please give her a warm hug from me.

You've always been supportive of everyone here, now we're here to support you. You can lean on me.

Warm hugs,
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#8 Jeannie McClelland

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Posted 28 February 2009 - 05:21 AM

Thank you all for the kind words, best wishes, and hugs. They mean the world to me. And thanks for listening, that's so important.

You know how sometimes you'll meet someone and immediately click as friends? That's how it was for us. When I was diagnosed, she was such a rock to me. She always knew the right thing to say or do. I think part of my problem is that I'm afraid I might let her down in some way~

One thing the scleroderma has done for me is given me the ability to be an advocate in the medical setting. The other thing it's done has given me a great appreciation of the value of a sense of humor. My friend loves to laugh, so you all will be helping both of us with your wonderful wackiness. ;)

Thanks to all of you again.
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Posted 28 February 2009 - 06:48 AM

Hi Jeannie:

I am so very sorry to hear this, also. There are such special people in our lives, and sometimes, they only come our way once. It is so tough. I am hugging both you and your best friend.

Just remember, though, you will not let her down in some way. You are connected through the heart, and there is a love and a bond that can never be broken.

Many warm thoughts and hugs,

Janet

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Posted 28 February 2009 - 08:32 AM

My Darlin' Jeannie,

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Lots of Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. You both are in my thoughts.

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Posted 28 February 2009 - 01:49 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. My brother-in-law got the same diagnosis 2 weeks ago only his lung cancer has already spread to his brain. They have started him on 15 radiation treatments to the brain and then will proceed to tackle the cancer in the lung. The terrible thing is he has 3 kids, with the youngest in 7th grade. We have no idea how my sister-in-law is going to do it on her own when he passes. They don't have much and to have his income gone and only the social security on the youngest is totally scary. I thought I had it bad with sclero and then this happens.

I am sending you a big hug and I hope you are able to spend so much valuable time with your friend. I also hope she is one of them who can beat it.

Warm hugs,

Peggy

#12 Jeannie McClelland

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Posted 28 February 2009 - 02:49 PM

Oh Peggy,

How truly awful. My heart just aches for your family. I'll keep you all in my thoughts.

Warmest hugs,
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Posted 28 February 2009 - 07:12 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about you friend. Lots of hugs your way!

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Posted 04 March 2009 - 09:57 AM

Dear Jeannie,

Please accept my apology for not having seen your thread before now? I am so truly sorry for both your friend and you.

You said it yourself. When friendships are forged and are as wonderful as yours is with her, it really takes an emotional toll.

I will absolutely keep you very close in thought as you continue to stand by your friend, lending her the continued loving support I know you are so great about providing.

Thank you for sharing this so we can give you the support you always give us.

Here are more {{{{{{Soft Hugs}}}}}} for you, Sweetie. Come back and get more as you need them.
Special Hugs,

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Posted 06 March 2009 - 03:41 PM

Jeannie,

I too am very sad to hear of your news. But I also know how strong you will be for her. It's in you; I don't think you could ever let her down in her eyes so not to worry, it won't ever happen. I have no doubt that you'll know what to do and when to do it. We're all here for you too!
Sending good wishes your way!

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Posted 11 March 2009 - 05:58 AM

Jeannie,
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I lost my mum and a good friend through cancer so know how difficult it is to deal with. I'm sending you lots of love and very warm (((((((((((( hugs)))))))))))),

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