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Should I get my wedding ring enlarged?

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#1 Kathy D

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 08:33 AM

I have been using a larger pearl ring to at least have my wedding ring finger adorned, but am missing the set dear husband picked out for me almost 20 years ago.


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#2 Jeannie McClelland

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 09:04 AM

Hi Kathy,

I had to have my wedding band enlarged 2 sizes to get it over my swollen fingers. Three years down the line, that bigger size is still OK for the mornings, but later in the afternoon (especially in cold weather), it's so big I'm afraid of losing it. I asked what they'd have to do to make it smaller again and apparently they'd have to cut the band and take out a chunk. <_<

I'd kind of advise against it.

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 09:28 AM

Hi KD,

This is a great question, yet a really tough one to answer.

I'll relate what I chose to do, but ultimately, it seems it's a personal preference for each of us.

While my fingers were swollen, of course I was unable to wear my wedding ring set. Like you and many others here, I struggled with what to do, as I missed wearing them so much!

I finally decided to get a wide gold band to wear. (In MY particular case, my wedding set needed to be ordered, so I was loaned a wide gold band while hubby and I were on our honeymoon). As it turned out, I had always wished I had chosen a gold band all along, as I really liked the gold band!

After time, my finger swelling disappeared, so I was able to wear my wedding set again.

(My sister-in-law was working and didn't want to risk losing the setting in her wedding ring, so I gave her the gold band. It is 6 years later and she is STILL wearing that band -- she LOVES it)!

Whatever you choose to do, I'm sure you'll be glad with your choice!
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Posted 27 March 2009 - 10:05 AM

Hi KD,

For holiday last year my husband had my wedding set reset because I could not wear it any more. It does get bigger in the afternoon when my hands are cold, but it is tight in the mornings. My old set was digging into my finger really bad. I have only been diagnosed with sclero for about 9 months, so I don't know how long this will last. It does make me feel better wearing it.

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 02:11 PM


I have not been able to wear my wedding rings for years, because my hands swell and puff up all the time.

As a solution, my husband got me a nice chain that matches my wedding set and I now wear my rings around my neck instead of around my finger. I like the symbolism, in a way, because they are now closer to my heart.

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Posted 28 March 2009 - 10:44 AM

Ahhhh, the wedding ring dilemma! So... I didn't know anyone else struggled with this and I wish I had some advice to give you, but I can say I like the variety you've gotten so far.

My wedding band was too big from the time I received it (12 years ago), but I always just put the engagement ring behind it so that it wouldn't fall off. When I was cold, I was always afraid I would lose them. FINALLY, after about 10 years of the band being too big, I decided to have it sized down & to have both rings soldered together. Much to my dismay, that was about the time that my hand swelling became more of a chronic issue, not just a morning issue, so unless my hands get really cold, they barely fit & I go back & forth between wearing them & taking them off....always trying to make sure I take them off before going to bed or else they are diggin' in, in the morning.

So for me, I haven't gotten mine made bigger mostly because I have no idea if this swelling is here to stay or if it'll go away. I really, really, hate not having it on and because if my hands get cold enough, the rings feel like I'll lose them, I'm afraid to get them made smaller.

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Posted 28 March 2009 - 01:53 PM

this is a topic I just dealt with myself. I have two anniversary rings, one from 10 year and the other from 25th year anniversary. (I'm so lucky to have a very dear hubby) I don't wear my actual wedding rings anymore and I couldn't even if I wanted to, unless very cold, the rings don't fit anymore and are painful to wear overnight.

My anniversary rings just went in to get some work done, the 10 year had worn down to the point where the diamonds were in danger of being lost. I ended up getting the rings soldered together and sized to 5 1/2. They fit great most of the time, other than when I'm all over cold. Last night I was sewing and down in the basement, my rings were quite loose. I think if they ever get loose all the time I would go ahead and get them resized. It was $35 to have the rings soldered together, and $25 to have one of the rings sized. And this is at a time when gold is at an all time high. That is nothing compared to what it was to get the rings repaired, which I'm glad I did even though it was a huge expense. So, the newer rings are a 1/2 size larger than my original wedding band.

I mentioned my swollen fingers and larger fingers to the rheumatologist and he didn't think that it was any indication of scleroderma. He was looking for hardness of the skin on the fingers. I don't think he even realizes that swelling, edema is one of the first things that happen. I'm actually wearing a larger ring on my other hand as well. I can't wear some of the rings I had, or they cut into my fingers.


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Posted 29 March 2009 - 03:26 AM

I had a lot of rings sized up because of swelling.
Being on Plaquenil has helped quite a bit though, the swelling goes down must faster in the morning.

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Posted 29 March 2009 - 05:38 AM

If your rings are too big there are these inserts that you can put inside them to make them smaller and fit snuggly on your fingers without having to pay for the expense of a jeweler. This is a nice way to go if your finger fluctuates and you don't want to keep making it bigger then smaller then bigger. My mother-in-law has these in some of her rings due to her arthritis changing her fingers from swollen to smaller. I think if you google something like that it should come up. I wouldn't be surprised too if you went to the jewelry counter at some of the chain stores they'd have them.

My knuckles have gotten bigger and my fingers are so curled. But when my hands are really cold then it seems like my fingers shrink and my rings loosen up. It seems like they change from day to day depending on how bad I'm swelling.

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:07 AM

I thought what Mando said about doctors just looking to see if your skin is hard and tight...it's like they ignore the symptoms that come first. A radiologist said I had "CREST" AKA limited Scleroderma, but the rheumatologist said no. Anyways, if I do have it, it is fortunately insidious and my swelling has been present and worsening for well over a year now.

Anyway, back to the rings (don't want to get too off subject) but you mentioned swelling for 5 months, I've read that the length of time varies, some are more insidious, some quick.

#11 Amanda Thorpe

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:58 AM

Although I initially had my rings cut off my fingers because of the swelling I can no longer wear rings because of the contractures. :angry:

I had no idea this was such a common dilema!

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 05:35 AM

I don't the know the right answer to this one either. My fingers have been moderately swollen for nearly three years- and I haven't worn my wedding ring for all that time. My rings that fitted fingers on the right hand are fine over on the left , but my original 'left hand' rings can't be worn . I did think about having them altered , but never got round to it (and for me or husband is not a concern that I wear them). However in the last three/four months my fingers are much less swollen and I can actually get the rings on Ok in the morning , but come the evening when my hands seem to swell a little are slightly too tight. I think that if I had had them altered when my hands were more swollen , they would now be too loose a lot of the time. Its difficult to know what course your hand swelling will take.