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#1 living linda

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Posted 15 April 2009 - 02:59 AM

Good morning! I am so happy that I have a place to vent some of my frustrations and know you may understand.

Do any of you have fingernails that curve under? Mine are starting to do that, and I have the typical digital ulcer scars on the tips of some of them, and the claw fingers.

Well, I go once a week to get my nails polished thinking if I have to have yukie hands why not have them look the best I can. I visited a new place last week that is closer to my home. I got a man that spoke in a foreign tongue "about" me I think, because he called over another worker and they carried on about my hands. He asked and I tried best I could to explain the weird arthritis thinking he'd just hush and I could leave and never return.

Get this- he had the nerve to say,"always ask for a man, because your hands will gross out girls"!!! I didn't think that much about it at the time due to the humiliation I was enduring, but as I laid there during my sleepless nights I pondered the best responses that I should have said.

Oh well, needless to say, it's back to the old shop. Thanks for listening! My hubby says thanks too.

#2 Jeannie McClelland

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Posted 15 April 2009 - 03:28 AM

Hi Linda,

Well, you've actually given the fellow the best of all responses, even if he didn't hear it: Goodbye forever!

I have several nails that curve under. All of them are thin, dry, porous and have vertical ridges that will split if you look at them and these funny cross-wise dents. They are also extremely pale colored, but I get the occasional splinter hemorrhage in both my fingernails and toenails. We are not going to go into the subject of my cuticles nor the dry, rough skin. Not a pretty subject. :lol:

Back when I still got manicures I got comments too. I've only been talked into a pedicure once and it was such a humiliating experience, I would never do it again. I've lost all the fat pads from my feet, so the soles are heavily callused, dry and rough.

Have you explored the main site yet? There's a good page on Fingernails, Fingerprints, Nailfolds, and Cuticles that you might find interesting. There's a great article about manicure safety which suggests you take your own manicure/pedicure supplies and polishes to help prevent infection. If it's one thing I know, it's not to mess around with digital ulcers.

Tell your husband he's welcome, as are you! Vent away, that's what we're here for.

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Posted 15 April 2009 - 08:44 AM

Linda,

How horrible for you!

Sometimes I have to wonder if some people missed the line for compassion and plain old fashioned politeness!

It might not be a bad idea to write to that nail salon and let them know what happened, to inform them that you have a condition that you have no control over and the lack of the respect of the workers have not only lost them a client, but that word of mouth is the biggest advertisement most places get and you will not be silent if anyone asks you what you thought of them. They are in a service industry and their brand of service is what puts companies out of business in this economy!

#4 Shelley Ensz

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Posted 15 April 2009 - 11:27 AM

Hi Linda,

It was a huge adjustment for me to get my head around the idea that many people -- unfortunately often including some of our family, friends or medical professionals -- do not make an effort to be kind or understanding or, sometimes, even basically civil, when confronted with illness.

Unfortunately that puts the burden on us to toughen up or we will easily lapse into depression or withdraw from society. The only way I know to toughen up without becoming hard and unlikable, is to apply a downright wicked sense of humor to everything and especially things that are upsetting or threatening.

In that spirit, that wasn't a manicure, that was a mean-a-cure! We'll all gather together and do the Sclero Unhappy Dance, the Mean-a-Macarena, just for you to Help Stomp Out Nail Parlor Cruelty. :angry:
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#5 living linda

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Posted 15 April 2009 - 12:06 PM

My husband just looked at me and wanted to know why I was laughing! He thought I had really lost it. That was so funny. You're right! I am going to toughen up. No more shy girl for me. Watch out manicure salons I won't take it any more!

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Posted 18 April 2009 - 04:35 AM

Hello.

When I was having my nails manicured about a month ago, I was rudely told, "My, you have really oily skin." I responded that I did not have oily skin, that, in fact, I had very dry skin and that if it wasn't for the creams I use, she would think quite the opposite.

Another time, I was asked if I could be more flexible with turning my fingers and wrist, and, of course, I responded that I could not.

People are just people.

HONEY

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Posted 18 April 2009 - 04:50 AM

Hi Linda,

Absolutely incredible. Things that make you go "hmm"

I quit getting my nails done last summer, because they were so rough with me, working a hundred miles an hour to whip people in and out and make money. I was afraid they would cut me. They didn't get "Sclero" so I used "diabetes" (not that I have that but thought they may understand that better) thinking surely they would have some training in regards to that. They seemed to understand. The next thing I know, the drill (I had acrylic overlay over my nails) jumped out of her hand and cut a full circle around the tip of my finger. Blood was spraying EVERYWHERE. She put pressure on it, without saying a word. When she let go of it, I took a look at it and thought I might need stitches. They taped it up, finished my nails, never offered an apology and charged me full price!! LOL I never went back.
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#8 Shelley Ensz

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Posted 20 April 2009 - 09:51 AM

Linda's new avatar is "No More Nail Parlor Cruelty". Sorry I just couldn't resist.
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#9 living linda

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Posted 20 April 2009 - 03:03 PM

That is funny! It is so refreshing to be able to laugh in spite of the circumstances. I'll never pass that nail place again without thinking about my friends on this forum.