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#1 sandra

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Posted 07 October 2009 - 04:06 AM

Ahh, yet again..
My Husband tried to help a "Down & Outer" type guy, they guy recently separated from his wife & 2 kids and came to BC all the way from Nova Scotia (opposite end of Canada from us) looking for work, So my Darling hired him as a construction site helper, 3 weeks went by and this guy was missing his wife & kids and wanted desperately to work enough and save for Airfare to patch things up with his wife, So my Hubby went and surprised him by purchasing Airfare ticket for him so he could go the next day- my husband even took him to the airport and said to him " I don't want payback for this ticket and I only want you and your Wife to work things out together- All I want is a note with an update on how things are going with you" Well 2 months go by and nothing in the mail... The guy lied never even got on the Plane! Cashed in the ticket when my Hubby left the airport, moved in with a young girlfriend right here in our area!
We got the scoop from other contractors!
My husband has always had a soft spot for people in need , he always has pre paid Meal coupons in his wallet for a hot meal at world known Burger joint.. instead of handing cash to the homeless.
Nice Guys Get BURNT
Sandra

#2 debonair susie

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Posted 07 October 2009 - 07:22 AM

As disheartening as that is, Sandra...your hubby is the good guy!
This is what I have to say about "the bad guy"...Shame on him...he's done himself a great disservice.
Like you, I have a husband like yours, who has gotten burned many times, but I wouldn't have him be any other way. It's when they help those who DON'T take advantage, that makes it all worth it :happy-day: .

Special Hugs to both you and your hubby!
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#3 enjoytheride

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Posted 07 October 2009 - 04:59 PM

I hope your husband does not feel bad about this- because the good he did will not be lost. His example may inspire someone else- or the knowledge of his kindness may be cause this man to pass it on. And, if only one of the charitable things he does saves a person, he has done more than most in this world.
I lost a friend a number of years ago- she was kind and made friends where ever she went. When she died suddenly in a very tragic accident, the memorial service had well over a hundred people who had stories to tell of her kindness. Who knew that she helped so many people. We were all better people for knowing her.
I would suspect that there are many people who are better for knowing your husband too- and I would never say that good people finish last- they just usually stand aside to let someone else go get ahead because they know what is important and it isn't being first.

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Posted 08 October 2009 - 12:27 AM

Sandra,

I am sorry that *jerk* (the word I want to use there would never survive the trip through the filter) took advantage of your husband's good nature, just remember that what goes around comes around and that sorry individual is burning more bridges than he can afford.

There is an old saying 'no good deed goes unpunished', but I think that is not quite right... I think it should actually say 'a good deed is it's own reward and those that take advantage of a kind heart will not go unpunished'.

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Posted 08 October 2009 - 03:04 AM

Sandra,
Ditto to everything Penny said. I couldn't have said it any better.

One of these days that guy will get what's coming to him. I'm sure your husband is more hurt than angry, showing what a good man he is.

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