Shelley Ensz

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  1. Hi Heddy,

     

    I'm sorry to hear you have a severe sore throat.

     

    As it happens, people on methotrexate are supposed to contact their doctor right away if they have any signs of infection (such as sore throat). Methotrexate can interact with antibiotics. Also it is most beneficial to have a throat culture before taking any type of antibiotic, since even a single dose can cause a false negative for a strep test.

     

    Of course, you certainly can't take back what has already occurred. But it's not too late to call your doctor and sort things out. Usually methotrexate is very well-tolerated, but it does require working closely with your doctor on it.

     

    For more information, see Methotrexate at Drugs.com. I hope you get back up to snuff fairly soon.


  2. I'd just like to remind all of our new members that this is a great thread to post your first message in. Just tell us a little (or a lot) about yourself, just to break the ice and get your feet wet with posting in the forum.

     

    I remember being so scared to post my first message in a forum. I worried about whether I would be able to do it right, how it would work, whether anyone would ever reply to my message, etc. I can't exactly say my first message was met with thunderous applause, actually probably none of them ever have been, but the world did keep revolving on its axis and eventually I got used to it.

     

    So just jump in and try it out. Our support specialists will make sure your message fits all our Forum Guidelines, if you haven't studied them extensively yet.

     

    My name is Shelley. I live in Minnesota. We celebrated Thanksgiving on Thursday and I made turkey stock for soups yesterday. I love to do artwork and crafts and sewing.

     

    What's your name? Where are you from? What do you like to do? Why did you join the forum? It doesn't much matter what you say...the important part of your first message is just getting it over with. :blink:


  3. Hi Barbs,

     

    I've never had more than a tiny bit of discomfort from "normal" extracted teeth (except for dry socket wisdom teeth), never to the point of having to take pain meds for them more than once or twice after they were out (as the swelling went down), and I've had way more than my fair share of fractured and extracted teeth.

     

    Please call your dentist immediately since "normal" pulled teeth should be fairly painless and they should hurt only in the immediate area where it is swollen and tender. But there is a huge difference between tender and needing pain pills every four hours, especially in an entirely different location.


  4. Dear SDNYC,

     

    I'm sorry you are having such problems with both hands and teeth. I've lost a lot of upper teeth due to scleroderma and Sjogren's combined. I asked for a special partial design without any hooks or tooth rests, since the hooks were causing the adjacent vulnerable teeth to fall out, sooner than they would have otherwise.

     

    My 8-tooth upper partial pops in very easily, doesn't need adhesives (although I use them occasionally), and comes out very easily, with the flip of my tongue (which is why I use dental adhesives for special occasions when I really don't want them flipping out accidentally.)

     

    I also have no trouble chewing with my gums. So rest assured that there are partials and dentures that can be used if your mouth becomes more involved. And of course, visit our page on Dental Involvement for more ideas for coping with mouth involvement.

     

    I doubt that you will have problems caring for them due to your hand involvement, but if you do, you can consult an occupational hand therapist for advice, since they are very creative in finding ways and gadgets to do things that are otherwise nigh impossible.


  5. Hi Barefut,

     

    As I understand it, the average child gets 6 to 10 colds per year and the average adult gets 4 colds per year. You could probably add a few colds onto that number if you are on immunosuppressants. If you find that you are getting more than 6 to 8 colds per year, then you may want to reconsider your career choice -- although it is possible to pick up germs anywhere, of course.

     

    Keep up your vigilance and stand your ground with parents who try to drop off their children when sick. As soon as you do realize a child is sick, call the parents and pleasantly but firmly ask them to take their child home until they are fully recovered.

     

    I agree not to ever mention anything about having a suppressed immune system. Hardly anyone will know what scleroderma is, and people will likely assume it is something contagious, like AIDS. It's normal to take disease precautions, and activity that you enjoy is probably beneficial for your immune system.


  6. Hi Ann,

     

    Well, sorry to say, but he's probably not going to change his communication methods nor his habit of over-promising and under-delivering a tad, just because you happen to be sick. It's probably something you could adjust to when you were healthier, by compensating for it with extra effort on your part, or last-minute troubleshooting. Now you're probably realizing that approach isn't going to work anymore, since you don't have the extra energy reserves to tap.

     

    The worst thing would be expecting him to change, since odds are fairly good he had a pleasant way with good intentions and promises long before you got married, and that he has other sterling qualities that offset this little quirk. Therefore, it would still be up to you to compensate for his pleasant but slightly unproductive approach. Perhaps by scheduling more, expecting less, and not asking for his permission for people to bring dishes (just get on the phone and ask them). You can embrace the idea that he needs some R&R and time to watch the game, and have a cleaning person come in to handle some of the chores while he is relaxing, or recruit a relative to help a little beforehand.

     

    We take a more radical approach in our household, often scaling back to a bare minimum that many people would find shocking. Our usual plan is to go out to eat for holiday dinners, even if it is just the two of us. And we always have a Plan B in case either of us don't feel up to going out, such as a roasted chicken from the deli. Our Plan C, which we frequently indulge in, includes scaring away all the relatives, staying in our pajamas all day, reading and listening to music or playing board games, and eating whatever happens to be on hand (cereal, anyone?).

     

    The important point is that we are together, we are relaxed and we are enjoying each other's company. So we simply lower our standards to whatever is right for us and our health for that occasion, which is about the only way to cope since both of us have chronic illnesses (and he is on the lung transplant list.)

     

    Perhaps the most important point is that we joyfully and proactively lower our standards, with no apologies to anyone, putting "rest and relaxation" at the very top of our To Do list. Then, if we manage to not achieve anything else on the list, we have still done the most important thing of all. And somehow the world still revolves on its axis, even if our holiday celebrations are different than they used to be.

     

    If anything, our celebrations are happier and more pleasant now, since we have so drastically relaxed our holiday expectations, on ourselves and on each other.


  7. Hi Ann,

     

    There are a wide number of approaches you can take. One is to stop waiting or hoping for understanding. Oddly enough, it has little to do with whether people really love you or not. The enormous range in how people respond to illness is incredible.

     

    My approach would be to forget educating them, forget expecting understanding, and certainly let go of the idea that anyone will automatically think of being accomodating. Instead, focus on figuring out exactly what you need and then in asking for it, plainly and simply, without grudges or anger.

     

    For example, figure out whether you ever really liked all the entertaining in the first place, or not. If you love the socializing but feel wiped out with cleaning and cooking, explain to your hubby that you want to continue with the socializing but need to adapt things to help prevent your illness worsening from the effects of stress.

     

    From here, the ideas are nearly endless. Unless he is naturally Mister Clean and adores the thought of cleaning or cooking for the event by himself, offer to hire a cleaning service. Figure out ways to scale back the menu so that it is either all extremely easy to cook (or defrost) and/or order in deli or restaurant foods (with delivery, of course.)

     

    The cost alone might encourage hubby to want to extend fewer at-home invitations or he may decide it is more reasonable to hold smaller get-togethers in a restaurant. Our local grocery store delivers a complete Thanksgiving dinner, for less than the cost of a restaurant meal.

     

    It doesn't really matter how you solve the issue, as your approach might change a bit for every holiday or entertaining event. What matters is that you figure out exactly what you want, and don't waste any time (nor precious emotional energy) waiting around for your loved ones to "get it". There are very few loved ones who ever entirely "get it" unless they happen to suffer from exactly the same illness and severity. By letting go of that desire, and focusing on how we can help ourself and them adapt to the reality of our illness at the moment, we show them (instead of tell them) how to express their caring and make accomodations for flagging energies, while still enjoying life to the max.

     

    Now is the perfect time to inventory all the "shoulds" that have accumulated over the years, and figure out your "wants tos" instead, and focus only on them, and on how to make them possible without worsening your illness.


  8. I'm very sorry to hear of your mother's condition and that she is in the hospital now. This must be very hard on everyone.

     

    If you can talk to her medical team, ask what all of her treatment options might be for pulmonary hypertension. We have information readily available on the main website for PH secondary to scleroderma, so it's not like a secret that would only be available at Mayo Clinic and there might be something that she would be able to start on now.


  9. Hi Barefut,

     

    Yes, that will stop all your email notifications for the ones you have already subscribed to. But you will need to make sure you don't end up with more subscriptions. Simply uncheck the box that is underneath the message compose area, which says "Enable email notification of replies" every time you compose a new message.

     

    This box is automatically checked, because it is what most people prefer. Click OFF any options that you don't want.

     

    Another important privacy issue is that all the messages we post on this board are public and can be accessed by anyone. You can go through and delete any of your own messages whenever you want, and you can also ask the forum administrators to edit any of your messages.

     

    You can also change your screen name, which can help a little bit, too.


  10. Hi Barefut,

     

    I love to do microwave exercises, coffee or tea walks (while the pot is brewing), computer boot up stretches, and on-telephone-hold walking. I also like to just set the kitchen timer and walk around in circles through the house, or dance a bit if I need a pick-me-up.

     

    These are all little things, but they do add up. Although you can become completely exhausted if you end up on hold too long...so be careful with this approach.

     

    An ex-hubby should be the best motivator of all to start shakin' it up a bit. You want him to eat his heart out that he was a stupid fool to leave you, don't you? And later on, after you've mastered the "little-cizes", maybe you will feel like adding more challenges to your routine.

     

    I also use a very cheap (like $15) stretching program that pops up on my computer, whenever, and tells me what stretches to do -- and how to do them.


  11. Welcome, new members! This is a great thread to try out your first message to the forum. We'd love to know a bit about you. Just pop in and say a brief hi, or tell us about why you joined, where you are from, and/or what your interests or hobbies are.

     

    My name is Shelley, and I'm from Minnesota. It's rather chilly here today. I sewed a pillowcase this afternoon, and when I sign off, I'm going to sew a coverlet for my musical keyboard.

     

    See, it's as easy as that. Your turn!


  12. Hi Patty,

     

    This sounds like something that might actually require an appointment, to discuss the test results plus possible treatments. I am sure he would want to review all your meds for interactions plus explain any possible side effects to you.

     

    Why not make an appointment to see him next week? Then you will surely have his attention! And if you also need to discuss the pain med issue, you may need to make a separate appointment for that (or ask for a longer appointment when you are booking it.)

     

    He might be limiting your pain meds just for the very reason you mention...since if it says to take 1-2 a day, it does not mean that 3 is okay. In the first place, that might be dangerous, but it could also help you build up a tolerance that would make the lower doses less effective. If it is simply not enough at the prescribed dose, it might mean that the med just isn't working for you and that you should be switched to something, perhaps a med delivered by patch so that you are getting a steady stream of it, which would eliminate the periods of going without it completely.

     

    But of course, I'm not a doctor, I have no medical training at all (etc.). It's just that I would tend to approach these as two separate appointments, since they are a lot of ground to cover in just the few minutes they allow for an appointment.

     

    It can be a real eye opener to ask the appointment clerk how long the appointment is set for, too. Many clinics book five or ten minute appointments, so our doctor's teeth are setting on edge when the appointment runs over even by a few minutes, meanwhile we are merrily assuming we have a half hour or even an hour appointment, and wonder why their attitude has turned edgy or sour. Separating the issues out, keeping the discussion streamlined and focused on results (i.e. I am here to get a prescription for such-and-such), requesting longer appointment times when booking, and separating it out into several different visits can take stress off both the patient and the doctor.


  13. Hi Barefut,

     

    I'm also a firm believer in honesty -- but in digestible bits in the beginning of any relationship, and I would recommend steering away from the "life threatening disease" aspect. I've been married for a quarter of century, so my dating skills are rusty, but this is my third marriage so it's not like I'm entirely inexperienced in dating, either.

     

    On a first date, I might very briefly mention that I had "arthritis" or an "autoimmune disease" but that I am coping very well with it. And as soon as the subject was lightly touched upon, I would immediately change the subject or ask him a question.

     

    At every opportunity, I would downplay symptoms rather than emphasize them (which is a good general policy anyway, since most people don't care and even those who do may have poor coping skills.)

     

    Raynaud's can be laughed off with "cold hands, warm heart". Difficulty swallowing can usually be glossed over by pretending it was a cough or just that it "went down the wrong way."

     

    Most longlasting relationships begin slowly and build gradually, and don't entail a heavy dump on the first date. Saying "life threatening illness" or even "scleroderma" could be overload at that stage, when things are very tentative and the tendency for everyone is to bolt at the first sign of trouble on the horizon.

     

    Whereas, showing your humor and wearing your illness light heartedly will set the example that you aren't a worrywort and would be pleasant to live with, come what may for either of you.

     

    Believe me, there will be ample things that are important that he sure won't be telling you on a first date, either, so I don't think its hypocritcal. What you want to do is buy the emotional space to see what you have in common, completely apart from the illness, because you would be looking for a friend and a partner, not a nursemaid or a doctor.

     

    In short, trot your good humor and interest in him out to play on a first date! I would save all talk about "scleroderma" for a later time, and then only gradually introduce the subject. Otherwise, it runs the risk of thinking that he's only with you because of a pity trip. And you deserve someone who loves you, not someone who feels sorry for you, and who wants to be with you, not just take care of you.

     

    Even if he already knows you have scleroderma, I'd still stay away from the topic on a first date, because that is the point you are exploring things you have in common, and odds are fairly good that he does not also have scleroderma.

     

    Some people may reason to tell about it right up front and present it at its worst, then let the chips fall where they may regarding a second date. But I think that's about as sillly as confessing to any other unpleasantness, bad habit, or all the skeletons in the family closet.

     

    There's a time and place for that, later on, as the relationship becomes more solid and more able to absorb each other's quirks and burdens without being sunk by the sudden weight of it all.

     

    To approach him, just ask him if he'd like to have coffee with you some day this week. If he turns you down, it was only for a cup of coffee, and not for a lifelong commitment. Or do whatever else strikes your fancy!

     

    But I say go for it. If for any reason he doesn't leap at the chance, it only means that someone else even better for you is waiting just around the corner.


  14. Yes, and more to the point even -- please check with your doctor for any new or worsening symptom. If you feel like your hands are tightening for any reason, it would be time to see the doctor. They would be in the best position to say whether what you are noticing is normal, or not.

     

    I may be wrong (I often am!) but I think that sclerodactyly is more likely to begin with Raynaud's, and very swollen hands (like sausages) that begin to lose their wrinkles and then gradually begin pulling inward. And digital ulcers or calcinosis (or both) would likely appear around the same time.

     

    All I can say is that I think it is normal to have slight vertical wrinkles on the underside of fingers, but it is impossible to tell exactly what you are describing by email, and none of us are doctors, which would make an exam by your primary care doctor important, especially if you are experiencing cramping or tightening of your hands, for any reason.


  15. Dave, I apologize as I had assumed (we know what that means!) that you mean ASTIS instead of ASSIST, and had edited and linked your message accordingly.

     

    I have now added the Allogenic trial to our current clinical trials page, and included that link (hopefully correct now?) in your previous message. I hope this sorts it out, but if not, let me know and I will gladly make more revisions until we get it all straight.