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Was feeling extra tired yesterday. Thought a good night's sleep would fix it. WRONG! Woke up feeling like I was hit by a bus.

 

To make matters worse, my son's 5th birthday party is scheduled for here at my messy, cluttered, dusty house tomorrow at 1pm.

 

I have not done a thing. I promised him a dirt bike cake. He may have to settle for a store bought one.

 

I'm moving the party to a park but at the very least I have to prepare a fruit and a veggie tray and buy or bake a cake.

 

Why does my body have to wait until something so important to do this to me?

 

My whole week has followed Murphey's Law. I feel like a Murphey's Law Enforcer.

Whatever can possibly go wrong - will. And it has.

 

Of course I keep trying to ignore all those little annoyances this week like spilling my coffee at the restaurant right after my son spilled his water, not having the right screws for my project and stripping all the heads, tripping on the cord of the new drill I had to buy on credit because hubby took mine, having to rip open the box of my new hammock (I had to buy on credit because the dog chewed up my old favorite), because the thing would not slide out of the box, then dropping the wooden end of it on my ingrown toenail, only to find that it was a cheap piece of junk and I have to return it to the store 40 miles away in my gas guzzling kidmobile, without a box.......I could go on and on and on but I'll spare you. After awhile it becomes hard to ignore all those 'little' things. I was beginning to think I was on Candid Camera or that my life had become a cruel cartoon.

 

And now my body hits the proverbial brick wall. I should have seen it coming.


Take care,

Barefut

 

Serena Justis

ISN Blogger

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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((((((Barefut)))))) Here is a hug for you because you sound like you really need one! I hope it helps to know that you are not alone with this. I too feel like whatever can go wrong will and usually does! I think you need to sit back, relax and just enjoy your son's birthday party at the park. I am sure the kids will enjoy that better then in a house anyway so it seems like a good call on your part. I do hope that you have help for it. Let us know how it goes and how you are.

 

Hugs,

Patty


Hugs,

Patty

 

If Life hands you lemons, make lemonade.

 

Hashimoto's thyroiditis, Limited scleroderma, Dermatomyositis. Diastolic Dysfunction, dysphagia, Fibro, restless leg. Lupus is a maybe.

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Oh, Barefut ,

 

What a day......but kids are so good about understanding situations. I am sure your son understands more than you think. Tell him Happy Birthday from your cyber friends.

 

Take care, Everyone.

Margaret

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Hi Barefut,

You are such a good mom doing your best. Sounds like youve had a very bad week.When it comes to cake I dont think it will matter to the kids if it is homemade or store bought do whatever is easiest. As for going to the park I agree let the kids go wild there not in your house. Maybe one of the kids parents could help. Sometimes the simplest things create the best memories.

I was a single parent of 3 kids one of them handicapped not much money. The things they remember the most are the times when things didn't work out the way they were supposed to. We often laugh about all the misadventures we had camping. One of their fondest memories is making jello jigglers then using them in a food fight. Now theres an idea for your party.lol

Please take care.Kathy

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Update:

 

After I called everyone to change the location of the party, I looked at my messy house, loaded the kids into the car and ran away from home - to the beach! :D

 

I was looking forward to a cat nap when my son's friend and his mom came strolling by. At first I was disappointed because I wasn't in the mood for company and I didn't want her to feel obligated to sit with me. I'm pretty sure she was feeling the same way.

 

She said she was hot and tired from working in her garden and planned on taking a nap too. I told her to feel free to do what ever she wanted to do. She ended up sitting with me and we had a nice conversation and the kids enjoyed playing with each other.

 

I came home feeling better and with enough energy to do the dishes and finish the fruit and veggie trays. I'll bake the cake in the morning (I hope!)

 

Patty and Margaret, thanks for your encouragement and kind words.

 

Kathygirl I love the jello jiggler idea! If I had time to make some I would! I'll still do it another time. My kids will freak if I started a jello fight with them! It WOULD be quite the memorable moment from a mom who touts proper manners while eating and no wasting food.

 

They still talk about the pillow fight I started past bedtime that lasted 1/2 hour. They love it when mom breaks her own rules.

 

*SIGH*

 

Better get off towards bed. Big day tomorrow.

 

Thanks again for the cyber hugs.

Love, Barefut


Take care,

Barefut

 

Serena Justis

ISN Blogger

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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Barefut,

Please take a couple of days to rest, then we'd love to hear how the party went. I'm sure the kids had a blast and you had fun watching. It's amazing what our minds can get us through, then we crash.

 

Look forward to hearing the story.

 

Big Hugs,


Janey Willis

ISN Support Specialist

(Retired) ISN Assistant Webmaster

(Retired) ISN News Director

(Retired) ISN Technical Writer for Training Manuals

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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Hi Barefut,

Hope your party was a succsess. Going to the beach is an excellent idea. My kids always loved doing things that were out of the normal. I think everyone likes a break from routine. Sometimes we would take the mattressess of the beds or use lots of pillows and blankets get a couple of movies and have a party in the living room. They would sleep there overnight maybe with a couple of there well behaved freinds and think they had the keys to the world. Simple and Cheap! Best of all mom gets to relax and watch the movie too. Brings back lots of memories. Kathy

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I don't get on the site much anymore, typing problems, but I'm sending you a big dose of energy.....! We know the party will be a success and you are one great mom. Wish my mom was half as good as you and she was totally healthly. I love her don't get me wrong, she was just the more serious type.

 

I love this site for the humor and support. Take care and let us know how the party went- TJ

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Well, the party went very well. We had to use a picnic table by the basketball courts because the shelters were reserved so we had no shade and it was a VERY uncharacteristicly HOT day. BUT we had an intermitent breeze without which I would have suffered heat stroke, so I survived.

 

I brought all manner of sports toys and just let them play while us grown ups sat and talked at the table. I put up my golf umbrella and held it over the table for awhile to help shade us and the food but I kept poking people in the head with it whenever the kids came up to me for something. So I gave it up before I put someone's eye out.

 

My sister came in from out of town to help and she was a blessing as always! The kids had fun and so did the grown ups. I'll be having his party at the park for years to come!

 

Party On!

Barefut


Take care,

Barefut

 

Serena Justis

ISN Blogger

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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Sorry, I thought I answered this the other day. When my son was five, I bought water pistols as party favours and we had do it yourself pizzas for food. I let the boys decorate blank pizza rounds with their own concoctions of ingredients I left out for them, then I baked them. It was horrendously messy, but afterwards I filled their water pistols and sent them outside in the yard. They ran round and round the house shooting each other, laughing and squealing, for an hour while I picked up the mess and waited for the parents to come pick up the mess. Glad all went well.


Warm wishes,

Jefa

 

Carrie Maddoux

(Retired)ISN Sclero Forums Support Specialist

(Retired)ISN Sclero Forums UK Chat Host

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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Barefut,

 

Don't beat yourself up so much. You can only do so much and your son will be just fine with his birthday. We always want to do the most for our children but when we can't, we can't and we are so hard on ourselves. Disease is a hard one to chew at these times. SUsie54

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