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I've been feeling kind of trapped and lonely as well as worried and stressed about divorce and financial problems. The cold gloomy weather does not help.

 

I know we've talked about this before but I need to hear again what people do to lift their spirits.

 

Thanks,

Barefut


Take care,

Barefut

 

Serena Justis

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International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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Hi Barefut

I'm really sorry to hear you are feeling down. You are one of the people I most admire on this site. Being on your own with 2 kids, running a household and working. I love reading your blogs...where do you get the time and energy? If I am feeling sorry for myself I think of you feel ashamed. I am unable to work as I have Diffuse and I live with my best friend/carer. I am divorced...which I count as a blessing as I don't a man to look after etc. My kids are all married and I have 5 grandkids to spoil. My biggest problem is getting my friend to let me do some housework as she is always worried I will hurt myself...she remembers when I first got sick and was a wreck, pre drugs.

 

You should be proud of yourself and your achievements. Now you are coming out of winter (we are just starting here) :( hopefully you will start to feel better. :D

Take care and think positive thoughts

Helen

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I guess we all get kind of gloomy at times and you have more cause than most to be so!

There's nothing like a good cry and nothing like a good laugh to bring yourself round but of course it's not that easy when you have so much to deal with.

 

I think we're all pretty special -- super mum's, brilliant resilience, experts in hiding emotions and above all, brave beyond all comprehension! You should think of yourself on a plinth with laurel leaves around your head and a huge medal around your neck! because, my dear that's how special we really are!

 

Keep going with your head down is a great expression but try holding it high. Tomorrow is another day and then after that will be another and if I sound like I'm not making sense then join the club -- I'm weird!

 

My heart goes out to you, and if I could drink alcohol I'd come around and share a huge bottle of plonk -- wine with you and have a chuckle.

 

Keep well my friend and keep that sweet little head high.

 

Best wishes

 

Barbara xxx

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Well thanks Helen and Barb. :)

 

I was fishing for things like: shave your legs, watch a comedy, paint your nails...

Your flattering replies have lifted my spirits.

 

I have been a bit concerned about some of this stress and worry regarding my still pending divorce, sending me back into a depression. I know I just need to have faith that things will work out okay and push ahead. Sometimes it's hard to push ahead when all I want to do is crawl into a hole.

 

Thanks again for your ecouraging words which I will read over and over I'm sure.

 

Love yous!

Barefut


Take care,

Barefut

 

Serena Justis

ISN Blogger

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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OK, barefut....

Shave your legs, watch a comedy, paint your nails.... sounds like you need a slumber party, whether it be with your kids and/or a couple of close friends... you be the one who decides!

 

My stepson just went through a difficult time... 1 1/2 years... divorce final mid-February. From where he was... to where he is now, the difference is astounding! He too, was concerned about the financial issues, but he's working on those things and getting through this. Faith is so very important and it sounds as though you know what it's going to take.

Just put one foot in front of the other, taking one day at a time, conserving as much energy as you can along the way... You need it to take care of yourself.

 

This tie of year is tough for the very reasons you named... the advantage is... the weather will be changing and for the better, so that is one of so many things to look forward to :rolleyes:

 

All of what Barbara posted is so very true.... we tend to forget how strong we really are ;)

Be good to yourself and think of setting up something special for yourself!

 

Big, soft Hugs coming your way....CATCH! {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Love, Susie


Special Hugs,

 

Susie Kraft

ISN Support Specialist

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Hi barefut,

Like everyone here, I'm sorry you are feeling down, but this is a great idea for a thread, For us to share things that perk us up. For me a nice pedicure helps. Also petting and cuddling with my mushy furball cat named Shelly.

Music is good too. I crank my favorite music and just groove a bit.

 

Hope it helps.

 

Hugs to you!!!

 

Karen

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I am so so, so sorry to hear you are down. My thoughts are with you. I too have been feeling depressed and my daughter treated me last Thursday to a pedicure and manicure and a little shopping. It lifted my spirits and ended up being such a nice day.

 

I hope you are feeling better soon. Blessings to you.

 

Warm hugs.

Peggy

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I'd like to add something else to the mix here. Laughter. A good comedy, no matter what makes you laugh. For example, I had been pretty down and scared for the last couple of weeks since this is all new to me and I'm still trying to wrap my brain around everything.

So, I'm shuffling around my bedroom feeling sorry for myself and being mopey. I had the TV on in the background and Fraiser was on. I overheard a line that had me laughing until I had tears running down my face. When I finally composed myself I felt so much better inside and out. I think laughing has a physiological affect on the body so try to watch something that makes you laugh. :P

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Hi Barefut,

 

Sorry you have the blues. I find myself with them quite often lately, with the upcoming departure of my son and his family.

For me, I talk it out with my husband, friend. Make sure I get out of the house, put on loud dancing music and let the groove take over, get a pedicure, or even take a small walk.


Warm and gentle hugs,

 

Pamela

ISN Support Specialist

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Hi Barefut,

 

I'm sorry you're feeling gloomy. You have a lot going on. I've had the gloomies all day because my granddaughter is moving back with her mom. It's good for both of them, sad and happy for me. She is my little buddy. When I'm feeling gloomy I like to read. It helps me get lost in somebody elses life. I don't know if you like to read or not, but I've always loved it. Sometimes I just get on here and read everything because everybody seems so friendly and that helps too when I'm feeling down.

 

We don't live that far from each other and I'd still love to meet you. You can also call me anytime - my granddaughter will be going with her mom tomorrow. I'll send you a PM incase you lost my number.

 

Just consider yourself hugged! You are very special.

 

Love,

 

Cheri

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Cheri,

 

I'm sorry you're going to miss your little buddy. You and Sweet - I don't envy your positions at all!

 

To Everyone -

 

Thanks for all your support and good ideas. I was just thinking I need to lose myself in a novel. Anybody have any good book recommendations please PM me!

 

Laughter IS the best medicine. That, I have always agreed with. Where to find laughter is another matter. My kids provide it for me regularly. So does Vee with her quality-only funny emails which I always look forward to and am grateful for!


Take care,

Barefut

 

Serena Justis

ISN Blogger

International Scleroderma Network (ISN)

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Barefut, you are not alone. I am a single mom of 2 teenage boys who want to be men so bad it's killing ME! To top it off my mother moved in with us after retirement 2 years ago and that has been a challenge on top of everything else. 2 grown women in a house is a reality show waiting to happen! I am a reader and do like to read to take my mind off of my life and strife; if only for a moment. Do you ever go to your local book store and camp out for a few hours? I also try to find a comedy on TV or put in one of my favorite DVD or CD's. I too love pampering with mani's and pedi's, but I can only do pedi's now because my nailbeds on my fingers are so sensitive. Anyhoo, take a long bubble bath, call a girlfriend you haven't spoken to in a while, go people watching in a public place, write down all the things in life you are grateful for. No matter what you decide, know you are loved! (and send some cool weather to Florida!!)


I may have Scleroderma, but Scleroderma doesn't have me!

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Hi smac0719...funny you mention the manicures. I go for regular pedicures and refuse to get a manicure for the same reason you stated. My fingers are way too sore and my cuticles infect very easily so I wouldn't let anyone near my hands. Everytime I go in though, they tell me my hands look terrible and that I need a manicure. They just don't get it I suppose.

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Hey Darlin'

I did something the other that snapped me out of my slump. I called up 4 of my old friends that I haven't seen in quite a while, but who I used to hang out with A LOT. We met at our old hangout, drank a few beers, munched on chips and salsa and laughed, laughed, laughed. It was a blast! (In truth, I only had 2 beers in 3 hours. I can't drink like I use to plus I have to wait until the beer warms up a little. If it's too cold, it closes my throat and I start coughing. Still didn't stop me from having a marvelous time!)

 

Sending a big smile your way, :)


Janey Willis

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